"Do you hate me?"
This was the message I had from a former suitor from the wonderful world of online dating.
Backstory: Met this guy I was lukewarm on initially. He was persistent, and I agreed to meet him for lunch. I have a second date rule, so there was a second date. In between, he was sending me these funny, sweet e-mails, and I came to decide, I actually liked this guy. We started dating regularly, and he continued being sweet and funny. I even nicknamed him "Sweetness" (not to his face). My car broke down on my way to school one cold December morning, and he came by to check on me and sit with me until my dad came to pick me up and get me to school. He loves kids, and is a major part of his niece's and nephew's lives, and even moved back to here to be a big part of their upbringing. (This is HUGE to me).
We had a nice stay-at-home date, fooled around a bit and he then never called again. I tried to call him, but he never answered or called back. I was shocked, a little upset, but whatever. I moved on. (I was also upset because I basically let other prospects slide because I wanted to see where this went).
Now it is 5 months later, and I get "Do you hate me?" from the site where we met. The odd thing is, in my continuing battle to get my e-mail to work properly, I read a ton of e-mails he had sent me and was just thinking about him and was actually missing him just a tad. Not enough to contact him, but enough to wonder what went wrong and what could have been.
My first instinct was to send back a snippy message, simply saying I would have to think about him to hate him. But another part of me wants to see what he has to say for himself and maybe see where it takes me. Obviously I would take anything, should I actually respond, and respond nicely, very, very slowly. If that is even what he is getting at. Maybe he just wants to know if I hate him.
So, my cyber friends, what would you do? (Any football fans out there old enough to remember the "You make the call" segments back in the 70s? Sort of reminded myself of that right then.)
And in other online dating news...
I had that lunch date last Tuesday. He was nice, kind of attractive, and we talked non-stop for the duration of the date--one and a half to two hours. The problem is, that while we had some interesting, intellectual conversation, I am not sure I ever really laughed. Big deal to me! And the entire time, he was either talking about having just finished law school and/or prepping for the bar (Okay, I get it! You're a lawyer!) or complaining about how bad his allergies have been since returning here. He sent an e-mail today telling me he hasn't called because he was down with the chicken pox. I know I am going to burn in hell, but for some strange reason that really tickled my funny bone. I can't explain it. I hope he is feeling better. He seems interested in me. Again, the second date rule. I might end up like him as I did Saccharine (formerly Sweetness).
Oh, and while I haven't called B to the power of 3 yet, I probably will sometime this evening...unless some here or one of the people I e-mailed tells me what a horrible idea that is. You have until 8:30 CST! :)
Backstory: Met this guy I was lukewarm on initially. He was persistent, and I agreed to meet him for lunch. I have a second date rule, so there was a second date. In between, he was sending me these funny, sweet e-mails, and I came to decide, I actually liked this guy. We started dating regularly, and he continued being sweet and funny. I even nicknamed him "Sweetness" (not to his face). My car broke down on my way to school one cold December morning, and he came by to check on me and sit with me until my dad came to pick me up and get me to school. He loves kids, and is a major part of his niece's and nephew's lives, and even moved back to here to be a big part of their upbringing. (This is HUGE to me).
We had a nice stay-at-home date, fooled around a bit and he then never called again. I tried to call him, but he never answered or called back. I was shocked, a little upset, but whatever. I moved on. (I was also upset because I basically let other prospects slide because I wanted to see where this went).
Now it is 5 months later, and I get "Do you hate me?" from the site where we met. The odd thing is, in my continuing battle to get my e-mail to work properly, I read a ton of e-mails he had sent me and was just thinking about him and was actually missing him just a tad. Not enough to contact him, but enough to wonder what went wrong and what could have been.
My first instinct was to send back a snippy message, simply saying I would have to think about him to hate him. But another part of me wants to see what he has to say for himself and maybe see where it takes me. Obviously I would take anything, should I actually respond, and respond nicely, very, very slowly. If that is even what he is getting at. Maybe he just wants to know if I hate him.
So, my cyber friends, what would you do? (Any football fans out there old enough to remember the "You make the call" segments back in the 70s? Sort of reminded myself of that right then.)
And in other online dating news...
I had that lunch date last Tuesday. He was nice, kind of attractive, and we talked non-stop for the duration of the date--one and a half to two hours. The problem is, that while we had some interesting, intellectual conversation, I am not sure I ever really laughed. Big deal to me! And the entire time, he was either talking about having just finished law school and/or prepping for the bar (Okay, I get it! You're a lawyer!) or complaining about how bad his allergies have been since returning here. He sent an e-mail today telling me he hasn't called because he was down with the chicken pox. I know I am going to burn in hell, but for some strange reason that really tickled my funny bone. I can't explain it. I hope he is feeling better. He seems interested in me. Again, the second date rule. I might end up like him as I did Saccharine (formerly Sweetness).
Oh, and while I haven't called B to the power of 3 yet, I probably will sometime this evening...unless some here or one of the people I e-mailed tells me what a horrible idea that is. You have until 8:30 CST! :)
posted by Beth at
6:11 PM
1 Comments:
I don't know how you do it. It would drive me insane to meet these people and tell them the same story over and over again. I know it isn't the same, exact story but I am sure it get boring after awhile.
Call B!
I will read on to see if you have done so!
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