The Upside of Men in Their 40s
Lately, most of the men winking and contacting me online are in their 40s. Some as old as 47. As some of you may recall, I was thinking 40 was too old, until I remembered I was 35. (D'OH!)
There was a phase where most of the men contacting me online were much younger, and nothing ever really came to fruition.
Not the case with 40 year olds. They are established, they know what they want, and they are no longer playing the games little boys play. They see you online, they send a note, you reply, and the next e-mail will either give you their number, or ask you for yours.
It could take days, even weeks with the younger boys. It could take than long with the boys my own age!
The other piece of the puzzle--they ask you out after that first phone conversation! There is no waiting game, or checking to see how anxious I am to go out. They talk, they like, they ask out.
Some guy last night, 15 minutes after I sent my number, called. It was almost midnight, but he could see I was still online, so I can forgive that. We talked for 20 minutes, we have a date for tonight.
Here is the kicker--he is good looking, and while he has 3 kids, wants at least 2 more, and he makes over $150,000 a year! (Money is NOT the issue here...the point is that it isn't that this man has nothing going for him and is desperate that makes him come on so strong and sudden. He sounds and looks to be of quality and just doesn't waste time--mine or his.)
I am not counting my chickens before they hatch, or anything, but I do think it is important to note here...a few days ago I was a little down at the lack of response after reposting my profile.
Suddenly, 4 interested guys, 4 dates basically lined up. All in a matter of days.
And the good news for you guys--more dating stories sure to be posted over the next few days! :)
There was a phase where most of the men contacting me online were much younger, and nothing ever really came to fruition.
Not the case with 40 year olds. They are established, they know what they want, and they are no longer playing the games little boys play. They see you online, they send a note, you reply, and the next e-mail will either give you their number, or ask you for yours.
It could take days, even weeks with the younger boys. It could take than long with the boys my own age!
The other piece of the puzzle--they ask you out after that first phone conversation! There is no waiting game, or checking to see how anxious I am to go out. They talk, they like, they ask out.
Some guy last night, 15 minutes after I sent my number, called. It was almost midnight, but he could see I was still online, so I can forgive that. We talked for 20 minutes, we have a date for tonight.
Here is the kicker--he is good looking, and while he has 3 kids, wants at least 2 more, and he makes over $150,000 a year! (Money is NOT the issue here...the point is that it isn't that this man has nothing going for him and is desperate that makes him come on so strong and sudden. He sounds and looks to be of quality and just doesn't waste time--mine or his.)
I am not counting my chickens before they hatch, or anything, but I do think it is important to note here...a few days ago I was a little down at the lack of response after reposting my profile.
Suddenly, 4 interested guys, 4 dates basically lined up. All in a matter of days.
And the good news for you guys--more dating stories sure to be posted over the next few days! :)
posted by Beth at
4:57 AM
2 Comments:
Hi Beth! Just my random thoughts here...for you and the 40 year old crowd the big thing will probably be the idea of children. Many men in that age range will be divorced, probably already have kids, may be paying significant child support, and the issue of more kids may not be attractive. Won't always be the case - but something to watch out for. Sounds like that's not an issue with this guy though. Have fun on your date tonight. I'll check back tomorrow for an update!
Yay! More dating stories to entertain me in my otherwise boring life!
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Anonymous, at 7:33 AM
When an online prospect contacts me, the first thing I look at is if they want to have (sometimes more) kids. Then if they smoke and then their political views. I'm a nut case! :)
You're right, and there are many guys out there who don't want any kids, and some just don't want more kids. Then the idea can be...if he is 47, , say a year of courtship, and another year to get preggers, he'll be 60 when the kid is in 4th grade!!!
I am up front and tell them I want at least one of my own...but in a post I am working on bit-by-bit, one guy told me I better hurry then. Sheesh! :)
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Beth, at 7:54 AM
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